The four NT-driven personality types are ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ, and INTP. The study conducted a survey of 300 university students being future managers by taking two big five personality factors such as extraversion and openness to experience and conflict handling styles such as competing and avoiding.So, you’re in a group of of your closest friends and say, “I think Kanye West should be the next President.” How do you imagine each of them responding in this scenario?Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Four Temperaments Ap Contributed by Mike Jackson. (2010) examined the correlation between personality dimensions and preferred conflict management styles.Maybe some instantly get riled up and start emphatically stating why that’s not true. This style is about simply putting the other parties needs before ones Maybe some laughingly agree. Within those types of conflict, one can experience horizontal conflict, which is conflict with others that are at the same peer level as you, or vertical conflict, which is conflict with a manager or a subordinate.A manager skilled in conflict resolution should be able to take a birds-eye view of the conflict and apply the conflict management style that is called for in that specific situation.
Understand how positive communication helps prevent conflict. Identify common causes of conflict. Most people think of con ict as a type of interaction with a negative emotional charge.Recognize the impact of workplace conflict. People hunker down into certain roles during conflict based on their values and personalities.Myers-Briggs Type Indicator ® Con ict Style Report JANE SAMPLE/ENFP Page 2 Introduction is report uses your results on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) assessment to describe how you are likely to approach and deal with con ict situations. Now, I’ve never actually said that in a group of people, but I have seen similar responses when conflict arises in a group. Maybe some see conflict building in the group and instantly start trying to keep the peace. 002% of a person, if that. These desires and fears are a mix of nature (what we were born with) and nurture (ways we learned to cope with unmet childhood needs – yes, even if you had wonderful parents).I like to say that the Enneagram makes up. Many people talk about the Enneagram these days, but, for those of you who might be less familiar, stated at its simplest, the Enneagram is an ancient and (in my experience) amazingly accurate personality framework that separates people into 9 core types based on desires and fears. And though most people like quick fixes and sometimes see slight glimmers outside of their personality’s traps, it’s usually the case that truly breaking this cycle in a complete way takes an entire lifetime of emotional and psychological work.So, here is where we dive in. That trap plays out in all relationships, discussions, and situations, except for when enough time and effort has been put in to overcome it. The reason being that conflict is usually healthfully resolved when two people come to a place where each realizes she is an imperfect human being, and that her opinions and beliefs are deeply intertwined with that flawed humanity.The Enneagram teaches that each of the 9 types have their own “psychological and cyclical trap”. Here we go:Type Ones: Desire integrity and goodness.For Ones, the principle of the situation is foremost, and a type One will act differently depending on what they think is right or wrong in the situation. Below is a brief description of how each of the nine types gets into and handles conflict, and some ways the Enneagram can be useful for healthfully navigating it. Here is a link to each of the nine types descriptions if you want more context. Type Twos: Desire to be loved and cared for by those around them.Conflict for a type Two will often arise because of the inherent conflict between catering to their own needs versus the perceived needs of their family, friends, and coworkers. This way, they can gently diffuse life’s conflicts one situation at a time as they come up. But a healthy version of someone who falls into the traps of a One will see that by engaging in conflict and admitting their own less-admirable feelings and qualities, instead of eventually exploding with anger. Conflict Resolution Personality Types How To Take CareA healthy version of someone with type Three tendencies will eventually learn to challenge the group’s definition of success and find that by speaking their own truth, they are actually more attractive. Type Threes: Desire standing out and being considered highly successful.Conflict for a Three will often come up when a they are deciding between speaking their own truth or living out the truth of the people-groups and culture around them. A healthy version of a Two will learn how to take care of their own needs before getting into tricky situations of giving love to others that they don’t necessarily want in that specific way or at that specific time. Type Fives: Desire privacy and knowledge.Conflict for a Five will often come from how they go about their relationships: a push and pull, always desiring more space and time away, and yet deep down desiring intimacy. A healthy version of a four is able to leave their own “ocean of emotion” and share their strength of “suffering well” with those around them. Fours can get trapped thinking that they are the only person experiencing emotional suffering, or at least to that depth. Decorative key hangersType Eights: Desire intensity.Conflict for this type will often look firey and easy to access. Type Sevens: Desire savoring life’s best experiences.Conflict for a type Seven will often look like wanting to do too much all the time, because it is all so good! A healthy version of a type Seven slows down in order to not run away from the what feels like a constricting present reality, truly savoring just one thing at a time. A healthy version of a six becomes courageous enough to move out of their head and into their gut, trusting their instincts and overanalyzing less. Type Sixes: Desire security.Conflict for a six: Do I listen to the voices in my head or follow my gut? How do I follow my gut? How do I trust this person? This group? Do I do it wholeheartedly, or not at all? Sixes are constantly questioning and can be in a state of constant fight or flight mode. The best version of a type Nine is unstoppable, showing up to her life agenda.If you don’t know your core type and want to put in the work, read through the nine type descriptions. Their superpower is seeing all sides to everything, leaving them in a state of constant ambivalence. Type Nines: Desire harmony, and are the most conflict-avoidant type on the Enneagram.Conflict for a Nine often shows up in the form of indecision. A healthy version of a type Eight looks like weapons dropped and vulnerability shown. Eights get themselves in a lot of obvious situations of conflict, and I think we can learn a lot from their energy. Eights have a tough exterior, but it is because they are scared to be seen as weak. We can look at each type’s hang-ups and blind spots to life and truly feel for them. If you are ready to put in the hard work, I think it’s worth it!Here are a few ways I have found as a coach that the Enneagram useful for navigating conflict: EmpathyIf anything, I think studying the Enneagram can give us a tremendous sense of empathy for the other. A famous poem from Alexander Pope reads, “A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.” If you plan to use the Enneagram, it takes time, study, reflection, humility, and the awareness that it’s not a “feel good” personality test. UnityIt can be immensely comforting to know others have similar worries and desires as yourself. When I realize it’s not about the dishes, we can start to have a conversation about me feeling like he’s not thoughtful toward me. For example, when my husband leaves dirty dishes all over the counter, and I get angry with him because I don’t feel cared for. Also, the reason conflicts become so aggressive and intense is because people have psychological triggers or perceptions that have almost nothing to do with the issue. HumilityIf each of us have our own psychological trap and obsession, how can any one of us be extremely judgmental toward someone else? In my experience, when a client has true humility, she or he is able to enter conflict and make it about the situation, not the person. Knowing our patterns and the ones of those we’re in conflict with can help us have a huge sense of warmth and caring toward what that person is experiencing. ![]() One of our phrases we say when admitting we’re having conflict is, “It seems like this is just my rough edges rubbing against yours.”I have a friend who describes conflict as a rock tumbler. Ultimately my husband and I end up reading up about each type and can see the other’s rough edges. Having this language to deal with conflict has been a great resource for us.
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